How to feel it and let it go.
“Physical inactiivty is one of the most significant global health crises of the moment. Levels of physical inactivity and sedentary behaviour in the UK remain stubbornly high,” according to Dr Mike Knapton, in a 2017 British Heart Foundation report.
These alarming statistics are set to rise unless people consciously decide to change their exercise habits. This shift in consciousness applies not only to exercise but when we’re looking to make changes in any aspect of our lives. When faced with a challenge, it’s too easy to slip back into old habits, old ways of thinking, unless we address and let go of the issues holding us back in the first place
A very simple, effective and powerful way to do this, is to use the “Feel It” also known as the “Letting Go” process. It is a form of meditation, which you can use to work on yourself, to clear emotional issues and negative feelings. The process is scientifically supported by observations from The Gray-LaViolette (1981) scientific research integrating psychology and neurophysiology. Dr David Hawkins1 explains the findings, “Thoughts are filed in the memory bank according to various shades of feelings associated with the thoughts. When we let go of the feeling, we free ourselves from the associated thoughts.”
Today most people live in their heads and seldom connect with how they feel. We have learnt to repress and suppress our emotions, to push them down or ignore them completely. The “Feel It” process will teach you to notice and then to fully feel your negative emotions. The benefit of “Feel It” is that just by fully feeling your emotions they will change and eventually dissipate completely.
As an example, let’s start by looking at one of them most common reason why people say they do not exercise. I don’t have time. But what really lies behind I don’t have time, is it masking a feeling of lack of self-worth, an insecurity, a fear or possibly an embarrassment? To begin with sit yourself comfortably in a chair. Take 3 or 4 deep rhythmical breaths slowly in through your nose and out through your mouth, to relax and oxygenate your body. Then ask yourself “how does I don’t have time make me feel.” Name the emotion by finishing the sentence “I feel…………” For this example, let’s say “I feel angry.” Then ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how intense the feeling is at the start. We’re going to say 8 of 10. Stay with the feeling of anger and check in every few minutes to see it reducing until eventually you reach 0.
Whilst there can be just one layer often there are multiple layers that need to be felt through to completely dissolve the issue. Anything up to 5 or 6 layers is fairly common. Remember your only job is to really feel how you feel. You are the observer and crucially the feeler of the emotion. You are not trying to change anything or make anything happen. Just by feeling it, it will naturally start to change. If you find yourself having difficulty dissolving the issue, ask yourself what is the purpose of hanging onto this, how is it serving you, are you willing to let go of the underlying belief?
Now ask yourself the question again “how does I don’t have time make me feel?” In this example you notice a sadness at 5/10. As before work through that layer until you reach 0/10. As you go through this process, the underlying motive for the feeling becomes more apparent. When you finally fully let go of the feelings, you may notice a sense of lightness and happiness about you. Keep repeating this process until you feel totally fine about I don’t have time. Now having released the emotions and negative blocks behind I don’t have time, you are ready to consciously make and stick to the choice to have time, if you wish.
Your next step is to sit down and make a list of all the possible reasons you can think of why you do not exercise. Then ask yourself, one by one, how does this make me feel. Work as before through the layers which come up. Crossing the list off as you go. Try to start working with something gentle, to build up your confidence before tackling bigger issues. This is the process. It is so simple and if you work with it you will quickly see how powerful it is. If your struggling to get active and move more, why not give it a go or sign up for our workshop/1-2-1 sessions. It could change your life in more ways than one.
1 David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender