Unblock your resistance to exercise!
2018 is rapidly approaching. Are you someone who will be seduced by the barrage of new and exciting exercise paraphernalia to hit the market, promising to give you the body you've always longed for, strangely enough for minimum effort? Does this come in the form an App to track your steps and calories, a sponge ball which can tone every muscle in your body, or an idyllic yoga retreat in Thailand, possibly a breath-taking cycle-ride across Cambodia or a celebrity you too can look like me DVD, even slendertone underwear? You're all signed up but are achieving your goals?
How many of you have pledged a New Year’s resolution to exercise more? You’ve bought the trainers, you've got the watch, you’ve been given the kit for Christmas and yet somehow, it just doesn’t happen! With every novel idea which surfaces, the population seems to dig their heels in harder and resist the guidelines to move more. We’ve all heard the excuses but why is this happening? What is the root cause of inactivity?
From my experience as a Personal Fitness Trainer, I believe many people subconsciously hold onto limiting negative emotional beliefs around exercise which either prevent them from exercising in the first place or sabotage their will-power to keep going. Emotions such as pride, anger, desire, fear, guilt and shame can be linked to beliefs around:
- I’m not good enough
- I can’t do anything right
- I’m worthless
- I’m a failure
- I don’t matter
- I don’t fit in anywhere
- I’m bound to be rejected
- I’m helpless
- I can’t change
- I’m a loser
- My needs are not important
- It’s my fault
- I’m unlovable
- I don’t measure up to other people.
Many of these beliefs can be linked to past experiences, which may well have taken place in their formative years. The experience does not necessarily have to be real to them either, it can be a belief brought into existence by past generational attitudes and understandings, which have never been questioned and held as truths, despite the devastating affects to their health.
Exercise is gold dust. The physical and psychological benefits it brings to people’s lives is almost unquantifiable. How you feel about yourself and your outlook on life, can all be vastly improved when you exercise. To the medical world, it is the wonder-drug.
In my work as The Coach at www.tessaguy.com I have been helping my clients to find and fulfill their potential; to lead happier, healthier and more successful lives. Here, and in my group meditation workshops, I’ve been helping people to uninstall the negative emotional programming which has been inadvertently wired to their brain. There is no judgement associated to this way of thinking and feeling, only an empowering understanding of our ability to be able to change the architecture and function of the brain, to change the body’s biology and change how we experience our lives. Effectively we are changing how their DNA switches are set, which changes how their genes express themselves.
This can be done using the “feel it” process. A simple, yet amazingly powerful tool that can be used to transmute any negative emotion.When you allow yourself to feel the negative emotion without resisting, venting, fearing, condemning or judging it and surrendering all efforts to modify it, the feeling loses energy and dissipates. This frees my clients to create and upload the experiences they’ve longed to enjoy, thrive and benefit from. To live life rather than simply cope with life. This can all been facilitated through meditation.
I am now specialising in helping people to unblock their resistance to exercise. By deeply listening to their heartfelt ‘story’ with compassion, respect, attention and extensive caring, I use my gifted intuition and personalised meditations to help them unravel their limiting beliefs and emotions. I guide them to ‘feel’ and dissolve these negative emotions which allows them to heal. During this process I also recommend which active imagery audio strength training exercises they listen to, as they transform from a sedentary to an active lifestyle.
Let me give you some examples. I met a client who was over-weight and exhibiting a variety of somatic health issues, including headaches, muscle pain, insomnia, digestive disorders and depression. Now he knew exercise could help alleviate all these problems and yet despite all his best efforts, he had never managed to make exercise part of his daily routine. We worked together and over time, as I and he listened to his story, we got to the heart of the matter.
As a child he had felt unloved. The only time he felt loved was when he was ill. This hidden belief had stayed with him all his life. He had constantly suffered from health issues. Medicine could alleviate these symptoms but was unable to resolve the underlying problem. By healing his loving heart through listening to his personalised meditations and using the feel it process to dissolve his negative beliefs, he was finally free to heal and exercise.
Other hidden beliefs can appear from past generations. It’s unlady like to sweat! The fear associated with sweating, again can be rooted back to the heart. Nobody loves a lady who sweats. If I sweat, I will be unloveable. We all want to be loved and so this hidden belief prevents them from exercising.
Your so slow, I don’t want you on my team. Could have been a passing comment from a childhood classmate, which at that precise moment in time deeply hurt your pride and touched your heart. This could possibly be the underlying reason why someone might not exercise and have great difficulty fitting in at work especially joining in team-building exercises. The story they then build up about themselves not joining in, could progress to thoughts about losing their job, their house and subsequently even their spouse, as their mind rapidly brings in a whole host of negatively energised thoughts.